I have seemingly broken down a somewhat persistent brick wall by determining that Richard Butler (b. 6 March 1761, Westfield, CT; d. 2 January 1839, Busti, NY – Source) was married twice, and that my 4th great grandmother Calma Butler was his third child with his second wife.
Richard Butler married Lois Goodrich 5 February 1784 in Rocky Hill, Connecticut. Lois (b. 27 December 1765) is the daughter of Ebenezer Goodrich and Lydia Deming.
Lois (Goodrich) Butler died on 23 April 1784, less than 3 months after her Wedding Day, and at the young age of only 18.
Richard and Lois had a daughter, Lois Butler, who was baptized on 4 May 1784. If this date is correct then she was pregnant before she married Richard.
The logical next step is to assume that Lois (Goodrich) Butler died in childbirth. Tragically, her daughter Lois would pass away 15 June 1790 at the age of 6.
Richard would marry his second wife, tying the knot with Mary Sage on 31 January 1788. Mary Sage (b. 9 June 1768) is the daughter of Solomon Sage and Hannah Kirby.
Richard and Mary would have three children: Hervey (Harvey?), Lois and Calma.
Mary (Sage) Butler died 2 April 1852 at the age of 83. (Source)
I will note here that my research is ongoing into Richard’s lineage. Right now I am going on the assumption that his parents are Charles Butler, Jr. and Azubah Ranney. “Lieutenant Charles Butler (1732-83) served as sergeant at the Lexington Alarm and, 1777, was lieutenant in Capt. Charles Wells’ company, Col. Thomas Beden’s regiment. He was born in Wethersfield; died from effects of exposure in the field.” (Source) I will update this post, or write a new one, as my research progresses.